Nobody teaches you how to be a bridesmaid.

So, you truly can’t blame yourself when you bring lingerie to a bridal shower or wait a month before the wedding to order your bridesmaid dress.

I’m guilty of doing both when I started out. I’m also pretty guilty of not doing the 5 things below.

Avoid the blisters, the crying bride, and the “I’ll never be a bridesmaid again” attitude by doing some of these tips:

  1. Clean out the ‘Travel size toiletries’ section at CVS:

Load up a hand-held cart with Band-Aids, bobby pins, Advil, mints, Tide-to-Go, a lint roller, baby wipes and coffee filters (they are the ultimate for clearing sweat off your face without taking your makeup off). Pack them all in a mini-tote bag that you can carry around with you or put them in a fanny pack and pass it around the wedding party. You’ll need these items when you least expect them – and you’ll need them quick: the morning of the wedding—the morning after the wedding, when your feet all ripped up and your dress is showing off a giant marinara sauce stain to the whole world.

  1. Don’t ask the bride “What can I do to help”

Chances are the bride has a to-do list that resembles the grocery list of a family of nine. So instead of asking a general, “What can I do to help?” Offer to help her in an area that you’re really good at. Maybe you’re a speech-writing Rockstar and can help her put some words down on the page for her vows. Or perhaps you’re good at making boring situations fun and can help her mail out her invitations or write thank you notes after her bridal shower.

  1. Walk a mile in your bridesmaid shoes

If you’re wearing brand new shoes with your bridesmaid dress, please (pretty please) wear them beforehand. And I’m not talking about wearing them around your house for 15 minutes. I’m talking wear them out to a fancy dinner one night or perhaps to the bridal shower or the bachelorette party.

The first time I was ever a bridesmaid, I wore these shoes [Click here to read more on]

I’m Jen Glantz. I’ve been a published writer for over 13 years, spilling my words into magazines (ranging from style to scuba diving), newspapers, websites and even this one time, a speech, for someone who didn’t speak a word of English. What drives my words, my site, my writing, is the power of relating to people. I find that many people, especially young girls, feel so alone and quite often they feel embarrassed. I want to shatter those feelings! I want them to read what I write and understand that it’s okay to be a little outside of the box, but most importantly, that it is okay to just be who they are.

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