“I wish that Valentine’s Day came with a fast-forward button.” -Unknown

I’ve only ever had two real Valentines. I’ve had some imaginary ones – though. I used to buy myself a heart shaped box of chocolate and bring whatever stuffed animal my mom got me that morning to school and act as if I had a secret admirer. It worked. I was also 15 and at 15, being single wasn’t such a big deal. We were all just coming off the middle school mark of guys no longer having cooties and most girls I knew were a few months away from getting their braces off and their first kisses on.

I’m 25 now and being single on Valentine’s Day is harder to ignore. Social media and married friends and having a CVS on every single corner have become constant reminders that I’ll most likely be spending the day shoving Hershey kisses in my mouth and watching the new season of House of Cards, on my couch, alone.

Here are 10 realistic and important ways to survive being single on Valentine’s Day. Have any others? I’d love to hear. Post them in the comment section.

  1. 1.    Do something to pamper yourself. Something you wouldn’t do any other day of the year. “I don’t had the syndrome, but being single on V-Day makes me want to treat and pamper myself. Twice I’ve been to AIRE in Tribeca for a spa session and it’s pretty much the best day of the year for myself.” Justin Chan, 26
  2. 2.    Combine three of your favorite things and do them all in one night. “I learned that eating a Chipotle burrito bowl in the bathtub with a glass of wine is the best (and messiest) way to spend Valentine’s Day.” Sarah Friend, 24
  3. 3.    Valentine’s Day is NOT just about romance. Appreciate the ones you love to love.  “Besides last year I spent every valentines day practically alone, no cards, nothing. But for the most part I didn’t get really upset because I spent it with my mom, and the more I realize it I learned valentines day doesn’t have to be about romance it’s about being with someone you love.” Niki Russo, 19
  4. 4.    Treat yourself to the giant chocolate hearts from CVS. “I don’t do anything differently on Valentine’s Day except buy myself chocolate. It really makes a difference and makes me feel as special as everyone else.” Emily Fligel, 21
  5. 5.    Take yourself out on a “you” date. “I’ve made a tradition out of taking myself out to dinner and a movie and stopping at a drugstore on the way home and buying some chocolate. I just do it for myself and everyone’s happy in the end. Nicole Gardner, 24
  6. 6.    Gather the troops together. “I send out a Facebook invite to my friends and invite all of them over for a potluck dinner. That way, everyone has a place to go on this awful night.” Michelle Peadom, 28
  7. 7.    Use your off buttons. “I make it a point to avoid social media for 24 hours. Seeing other’s pictures of their flowers and their large chocolate adventures just makes thing worse. “ Charlotte Brittle, 31
  8. 8.    Surround yourself with other singles. “I usually go out to a local bar with my other single friends. We dance to the music and flirt with the other single guys. If anything, it makes us all feel less alone.” Samantha Drockel, 23
  9. 9.    Give back to others. “Since I was younger, I spent the night of Valentine’s Day doing some kind of community service. Last year I worked at a homeless shelter.” Marissa Schumer, 27
  10. 10.  Remind someone of how much you love them. “I’ve been single on Valentine’s Day more times than I haven’t. The only reason I’m okay with that is because I make it a point to tell everyone in my life who I love that I love them.” Brian Frischer, 29


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I’m Jen Glantz. I’ve been a published writer for over 13 years, spilling my words into magazines (ranging from style to scuba diving), newspapers, websites and even this one time, a speech, for someone who didn’t speak a word of English. What drives my words, my site, my writing, is the power of relating to people. I find that many people, especially young girls, feel so alone and quite often they feel embarrassed. I want to shatter those feelings! I want them to read what I write and understand that it’s okay to be a little outside of the box, but most importantly, that it is okay to just be who they are.

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