“It came to him that he didn’t like holidays. . . . They bore down on you. Each one always ended up feeling like an exam . . .” ― Lily King

The thing about long distance relationships with your family is that you can easily put an exclamation point on a conversation even when it’s not quite over. When your mom, or your great aunt, calls you at 1:30pm while you’re at work to ask you about your dating life or your menstrual cycle, you can wrap up the I really don’t want to talk about this conversation with a polite and painless, I’m about to loose service – I’m walking into the subway!  Or drop them a line about how the connection must be fuzzy and it’s hard to make out quite what they’re saying or that it’s not very nice to chat while you’re in the elevator and you must get off the phone.

But when you step off the plane or veer off the highway back to your family’s abode for the holidays, the good old phone tricks won’t be by your side. You’ll have to stuff your mouth with mashed potatoes or press your lips against a chilled glass of chardonnay just to spare a few seconds to compose yourself and finally answer those questions that you just can’t avoid. Like….


1. Did you sit next to anyone cute on the airplane?
2. Are you eating enough super green vegetables?
3. Why aren’t you dating anyone?
4. When’s the last time you went on a date?
5. Will you let me go on your online dating profile? I bet I can find you at least 3 charming guys in a few minutes!
6. Are you wearing your night guard retainer that Dr. Schetner told you to wear at night to help with your stubborn overbite?
7. When do you plan on giving us some grandkids?
8. What’s all this fuss about selfies?
9. Whatever happened to [Insert name of ex-boyfriend or ex-best friend that you haven’t spoken to—or thought about—in at least 3 years]?
10. Can’t you just move home?
11. You work through dinnertime every single night – when are you going to ask for a raise?
12. Now if I post something on my Facebook page, will all my friends see it?
13. What does twerking mean?
14. Are you getting enough sleep?
15. Did you hear about how [insert everyone you knows name] is engaged?
16. Are you going out late tonight?
17. Who are you going out with?
18. Are there any boys going out with you tonight?
19. Can I go back to [insert your new place of residence] with you, please?

20. Why don’t you ever call your mother back, huh?
21. Do you know how much I miss you?

I’m Jen Glantz. I’ve been a published writer for over 13 years, spilling my words into magazines (ranging from style to scuba diving), newspapers, websites and even this one time, a speech, for someone who didn’t speak a word of English. What drives my words, my site, my writing, is the power of relating to people. I find that many people, especially young girls, feel so alone and quite often they feel embarrassed. I want to shatter those feelings! I want them to read what I write and understand that it’s okay to be a little outside of the box, but most importantly, that it is okay to just be who they are.

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