why i broke up with JDate
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“It’s not you, it’s me,” I said, waving my mouse over the “delete you profile” button on my JDate account. Like all cheesy and overused break up lines, that often serve as our first strike of defense when we’re eager to avoid the real reason why we’re picking up and running in the opposite direction, this one had a whole lot of truth to it.

JDate was the very first online dating site that I joined. I had been living in New York City for a year and found that meeting quality guys was not as easy as finding a quality slice of pizza in this city.

I tried things I never imagined I’d do in hopes of meeting the man of my dreams, like: joining an ultimate frisbee league or Sabbath dinner hopping around the Upper West Side. I even went to a speed-dating event, where I ultimately left without a voice or a potential suitor.

So after the people who loved me the most stopped being so discreet with their recommendation that If I wasn’t going to get off the couch anymore and put down the rugelach, I might as well try to meet someone online, I signed up.

See, everyone always tells you the reasons why you should join JDate:

  1. “You never know who you’re going to meet on there!”
  2. “My friend from Mah Jongg, Esther, has a son who met his wife on that site!”
  3. “ With so many options in one place, it’ll be harder for you to be so picky!”
  4. “I saw a coupon for 30% off, what a deal!”

But after using the site for one whole year, I noticed that no one tells you why, occasionally, you just need to take a break from it.

Read more of this post here.

I wish we could high-five, even hug hello in person – and maybe someday soon we’ll have that chance. But until then, welcome to my website. It’s my most favorite place in the world (beside home, Forever21, and the library – of course). I hope you’ll click around a bit – and read something you like. And if you do, come back again! Or better yet, click the subscribe button – on the top right – and i’ll send you an email on Monday Mornings with tips and fun articles to help kick your butt out of bed.

I’m Jen Glantz. I’ve been a published writer for over 13 years, spilling my words into magazines (ranging from style to scuba diving), newspapers, websites and even this one time, a speech, for someone who didn’t speak a word of English. What drives my words, my site, my writing, is the power of relating to people. I find that many people, especially young girls, feel so alone and quite often they feel embarrassed. I want to shatter those feelings! I want them to read what I write and understand that it’s okay to be a little outside of the box, but most importantly, that it is okay to just be who they are.


  • Reply June 23, 2014

    Marilyn Wacks

    Someone posted your blog on my FB feed and I had to comment. I was on and off JDate and other secular sites for seven years. About three years ago,one of the times that I had my JDate profile up but without an active subscription, I received an email from someone who looked very interesting, in fact, completely different than the usual men that I saw over and over on the site for years. I checked out his profile and after ruminating for a couple of days, I re-upped my membership just so I could read his email The rest is history and we got married on Lag B’Omer a year ago. I thought hell would freeze over before I found someone that I would want to date, let alone marry, but here I am, happy and blessed. You just never know!

    • Reply June 25, 2014

      Jen Glantz

      This is so great to hear, Marilyn! I love this and will keep this in mind :)

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