Ever wonder what it’s like to be a Maid-of-Honor? Today’s guest post, from Christina, walks us through the timeline of events that a M.O.H participates in during the wedding planning process!
I’ll never forget the moment my high school best friend asked me to be her maid of honor.
We were spending the day browsing a huge wedding expo when she turned to me and said, “I have something special to ask you.”
My heart started pounding and my head started racing with thoughts. “Is she going to ask me to be her maid of honor?” Normally, being asked this question is an honor and exciting for any girl. I felt anything but excited. You see, in less than a week I was about to move all the way across the country to be closer to my boyfriend who is in the Navy. I was moving from Cleveland, Ohio to Jacksonville, Florida.
Like any good friend would I immediately said yes, with tears streaming down my face. I had been there for my friend from the beginning of her relationship, and wanted nothing more than to help her plan her big day. But, in the back of my mind I was terrified. How in the world would I make this work? I wanted to be there every step of the way, but I knew it would be hard.
And to my surprise, I have been able to make it work! We talk almost weekly and pretty much have all my duties figured out. Lucky for me, my best friend’s wedding is set for September 2015, so we have time to plan everything.
Here is the timeline of all things Maid of Honor:
December 2014: My best friend from high school gets engaged, and I already know that I will be in her wedding (we’ve discussed this since back in the day.)
February 2014: As a bridesmaid and friend I immediately started looking for bridal and wedding expos to attend. I finally found one and we attended together.
I’ve never been to a wedding expo before! We spend a whole Saturday looking for cakes, dresses and venues. The expo was extremely useful for finding a venue, looking at cakes, and wedding dresses.
May 2014: After many phone calls and long discussions, my friend decides on who will be in her bridal party. The bridal party is small, so that makes it a lot easier to plan everything!
June 2014: Gwen finds her dress. I actually wasn’t in town for this one! Normally, I would have been a part of this process but I wasn’t home when she found it. So, we planned a weekend in July for me to come home and see the dress.
Being so far away from my best friend while she plans her wedding is hard at times, because you miss out on a lot of things. So, we’ve had to get creative with the planning process. In two weeks, I will be on my way home to Cleveland for a wedding reveal party.
My friend came up with the idea because so many of her close friends were far away from home as well. Party guests will include her close friends and some family (no father or groom). She’s going to bring the dress out for all of us to see.
I’m super excited for the party because I feel bad that I wasn’t there to help her find the dress.
July 2014: The planning process begins! I already know the things I am in charge of! I get to plan all the fun things like the shower, and bachelorette party.
September 2014: We will begin looking for bridesmaid dresses! This can sometimes be a hard process, but luckily for us my friend is letting us rent our bridesmaid dresses from a website called: www.littleborroweddress.com. One of the best things about being in her wedding, is that she’s doing everything she can to keep the cost for her bridesmaids down. This website is great because you can find beautiful dresses and rent them for a great price.
Renting the dresses from a website also allows us to look for everything online. Again, I can’t look at dresses in person with her, so this is a great option.
December 2014: We begin planning the colors, decorations etc. The venue is already booked, so at this point my friend wants to start looking for table settings, and reception decorations. We’ve done a little of this so far through Pinterest.
She has a wedding board with all her ideas on it. The board is set to private so that way only her bridal party can see it. We use it a lot to go back and forth on ideas for the wedding.
January 2015: Wedding Shower and Bachelorette Party. My friend and I are both super organized people, so planning ahead is key for both of us. Having a long engagement is allowing her to plan everything perfectly.
I’m in charge of planning the shower for her friends. I’m planning on hosting about 10-15 of her closest friends from college and high school at my house. Her family is planning on throwing her a shower as well. I will definitely help plan that one, but I’m hosting and paying for the one with her friends.